VBS lessons

 This weekend (Friday, Saturday, Sunday) was our first ever VBS (for the Ayars and for Wellspring Church!). Despite some new gray hairs and a few late nights, I was reminded of so many precious things by and through these kids and this work.

Our children's pastor volunteer lead has a HUGE heart for kids and a phobia of the microphone. She hates being the one in charge and loves loving the children well. So VBS?  There were a lot of crosses in it for her. She had to take personal time off work to prepare. She had to speak in front of a lot of people. She had to be the one everyone came to when she would have rather been working behind the scenes.  It could seem like that means she was the wrong person...and I know SHE felt that way lots of times. And for a performance, I guess she WOULD be the wrong person.

But discipling our kids isn't supposed to BE a performance. A performance has never truly discipled anyone!

For creating and maintaining a "people over perfection" atmosphere? She was IT. For showing the children that Jesus sees them and loves them and does not see them as an interruption? She was IT. For pointing the kids and volunteers to what HE wanted to do instead of what we all wanted to do? She was it.  

She was it.  So she did it! And carried her crosses (and I'm sure had a few tear sessions and panic attacks :) and looked to Jesus.  It meant that VBS was slower and caring and had space and was intentional and precious. LOTS of people helping when lots of people didn't feel like it was their perfect gifting or idea of a fun time meant that kiddos who are rarely the center of someone's undivided attention WERE. That kids dealing with a lot a issues were given Jesus over just a giant good time. And today there were precious families in church who were not. 

I also saw my kids really stretch, helping in ways and playing roles they didn't really want to at the beginning.  Matt reminded me that the Lord has also given THEM really good gifts, and they are for THEM to use and not bury or use up on themselves. If we recognize that it is in the giving the Lord BACK His gifts are where joy and meaning are found, why do we tell our kids they can simply do what they want and what feels fun to them?  I would have robbed them, and in the end, Sofie using her creativity and endless patience with the preschoolers and Lily acting in the skits and Nora helping the littles with the hand motions just pulled out so many of their God given gifts.  They are pastors kids...and the church IS their ministry too...but they will also not be 18 and have NO idea what the Lord has built into them, or why.     I pray. 

Finally, as we all stretched...I was remembering that if you want results to change, you have to be abandoned.  Willing to work. Ready to do the things. Ready to make room. Ready to add one more. Ready to invite and drive and sing and bake.  If so many of our children are NOT walking with Jesus...if so many of our youth are NOT finding their peace in Him...if so many of our peers are giving Jesus the things they hate but not the things they love or are comfortable with...what are we ready to do differently?

How are we willing to pray? How are we willing to obey? How are we willing to serve? How are we willing to testify? What are we willing to sacrifice. 

John Wesley's charge to preachers under him was always the reminder, "We've got NOTHING to do but save souls."

How distracted I can be from that single-focused work.  

VBS truly reminded me. I'm so thankful!

This week I am off to OMS for missionary board meetings, which means I'm about to get re-ignited over that same work in more ways than VBS!  Lily goes with me, both to hang out with her Haiti bestie Sarah and to finally get to OMS headquarters...this girl has missions on her heart, and if all goes the way I pray for them daily, God's got good gifts for and through these children for the Gospel! 

Also sweet Emma, my baby, turned 3. They called her up on stage to sing her happy birthday at VBS, and as soon as her best little buddies saw her go, they went right on up there with her.  It was the most precious display of friendship and had me in tears. She's a rich 3, and we're rich to have her. We're not gonna say anything else about that. 

20

Tonight was the last night of our church's four day revival, the day some good old friends from Kansas came to see us, and our 20 year anniversary. 

Somehow, friends old and new, a bouncy house, and revival seemed like the perfect way to celebrate. An exhausted toddler resting her sweaty head on my shoulder to Gratitude, a good summary. Catching up with Mr. and Mrs. Ovalhead on our Kansas family and our precious shared Haiti days, priceless. Having Rev. Hal bring the Word strong and true four nights in a row and soaking it up, just powerful. Refreshing. What I needed.

I am so thankful for 20 years with Matt. It has been long years and short ones, good years and hard ones, lots and lots of sweetness and lots and lots of pain.  What there has been in it ALL is His faithfulness, an awful lot of learning, stretching and growing, and Matt and Stacey. Marriage just has to be one of God's most refining gifts. 

Someone two years in asked me tonight what I'd say, and what came to mind was to nag God. Nagging in our relationships--parent to child or husband to wife or friend to friend--it only brings about frustration, friction, bitterness and separation. 

But somehow, nagging God doesn't bother Him one bit, and brings about actual CHANGE.  Someone told me once that for every change I wanted to see in Matt, to nag the Lord about it instead, faithfully, continually...and I've watched over the years as that nagging the Lord has sometimes changed Matt, often changed me, and always brought me to HIM.

Nothing's pointed me to Jesus as much as marriage. Thankful, and for so many of you who have prayed for it, invested in it, and loved us. 

not a service

A still-powerful truth from 2020:

hospitality as an agent of change

When we first told the girls we'd be moving to the States in February, Lily quickly began to talk about her new home as if it were her current one.

"When we move to Mississippi, and our neighbors are all coming over for dinner, we can find out all about them and make them our friends.  Then, when we need some sugar or if they need some help or when their family comes to visit them or when it's someone's birthday, we can all be together and be a big family!"

"Baby?" I finally interrupted the third or fourth time I heard my sky-high-expections firstborn talk like this. "Life in America isn't really the same as it is here at Emmaus, you know? People don't know their neighbors, much less eat together...and we'll be very....well, new, you know?"

She didn't know.

As her face fell, I felt awful for raining on her sweet parade.

"You know what?" I finally said with newfound conviction. "Things are different in Haiti than they are in America. But the good and Godly parts of our lives that we have learned in Haiti, we will hold onto them. We can at least try, right? We will try."

As our new home has been full, literally daily, and as new friends and acquaintances surround our dinner table most nights a week, as Lily DOES go next door to borrow sugar and as neighbors bring their families over so we CAN meet them...Lily was right.

I am realizing that "those things aren't done in America" is NOT because they cannot be, but because WE are not DOING them.

Every single conversation-turned-dinner-invitation we have made has been accepted, every one, even with puzzled expressions.

When three of our 80+ year old neighbors left last night, Matt and I grinned as we talked through the rich evening.  He finally asked "Why IS eating together SO sweet? Why is eating together in a home so much more intimate than anything else we do with others?"

We wondered if perhaps it is because dinner in your home takes time, and so do real relationships. We wonder if perhaps letting people in, first, makes it a lot easier for them to let you in, too. 

As people keeping asking me "What does that LOOK like?" I want to give a few quick ideas on the hospitality we learned over thirteen years in Haiti that wasn't just Haitian...but just Biblical.

1) Start with those Jesus reminds us to start with.  An easy, non-intimidating place to start is with the orphan, the widow, and the sick.  It doesn't take long to identify those who have no family, those who are alone, those who have come through great loss, those who are in the middle of physical and emotional suffering, themselves or in their family.  We are all surrounded by those people.  We have ALL been those people. Maybe we are those people now. There is no better way to ease suffering, loneliness and loss than to bring people in...both for them, and for you.

2) Instead of worrying about saying all the right things in a 2 minute passing conversation, make a quick chat an opportunity for more.  "Wow, you have a LOT going on right now! Want to come over for dinner next week? I'd love to hear more, and to get to know you better." When you have 2 hours with someone instead of 2 minutes, the pressure to quickly and perfectly love them well is off, and you can enjoy getting to know them and speak into each others lives more naturally and deeply.

3) Be a little bossy.  We've ALL heard, "we should get together sometime" and "someday you should come over."  It almost never happens, and that quasi-invite is potentially more hurtful when it doesn't happen than if you had just said, "Good to see you!"  Throw out a day or time or meal or event right then, and don't walk away until it's in the works, unless it really becomes apparent that they are not interested. "We don't have any plans Friday night! Would you like to join us then?"

4) Pull your family in, start to finish.  Talk to your children and yourself continually about the importance of walking alongside people. How many times Jesus reminded people that what they did unto others was unto HIM! Read through the Gospels and see Jesus constantly spending time with those who were hurting, lonely, sick, outside, searching, angry, wrong or broken...or maybe just in need of being with Him.  Ask your family how they want to be a part of hospitality...search out their strengths and spiritual gifts.  Have the kids set the table. Fix it while they answer the door. Maybe that's just me.  Include the kids in conversation. Discuss a plan for what the kiddos are going to do while the adults drink coffee and talk after the meal. 

I frequently ask the kids to help make the dessert or part of the meal, enjoying good and messy time with them during the day, and then uplifting them while it's being served with a "Nora helped make this cobbler, doesn't it smell delicious?"  It empowers our children when they know they have opportunities to be a part of His kingdom work...and when we allow their contributions to be heartfelt and not perfect.  It also builds hospitality into their DNA.  Lily wants to live in community simply because we always have, not because I told her to.

5) Not only does it not have to be perfect, but it shouldn't be.  Jesus sat with all the wrong people in all the wrong places, oftentimes saying very culturally wrong things...with literally nothing in the oven. If that's how the Jesus we are following ate with people, we can stop thinking of our homes and lives and schedules as ours, and we can chill out on four courses and perfectly behaved kids and a polished floor.

A perfect home and perfect display is nothing more than that...a display, and nobody needs that. It's not about being perfect hosts. It's not about serving a perfect meal (thank goodness). It's about showing His love, serving one another, creating opportunities for good conversation, giving an opportunity to pray together. It's about showing Jesus...so the pressure is off to show an impressive version of US.

I've been beautifully, transformationally blessed in stick homes sharing the family chair with nothing more than mangoes, and I always remember that when I am worried over food.

Squabbles between the kids and tough pork loin and a broken glass just lead to opportunities to be real...and for guests to minister to YOU. What a gift struggles can be, if we allow them.

6) ASK QUESTIONS.  The art and patience and skill of listening is often lost in this fast-paced age. If you ask any person how they met their spouse, or what their children's interests are, or what books or movies they are enjoying or where they like to go for fun...it leads to a dozen new roads in conversation. Share bits of your own story, and listen...for many are longing just to be heard.

7) Look for opportunities to point to Jesus.  This has nothing to do with hospitality. This is everyday, every situation, to ourselves, our children, whomever we are with. Look for places Jesus was...look for things that He is doing...look for areas to speak into later...Look for places to PRAY, right now, or later and onward.  Listen for lies to gently speak truth into, listen for fears to pour courage into, listen for hurts to ask about again, and to bring before the Lord.

8) Search for--and relish--the sweet spots.  We are far, FAR more blessed by the people who gather around our table than we ever bless them. Every single time. This was true in Haiti, it is true, still.  How mesmerized we all were with priceless stories last night and again tonight. How fascinating for our children to hear about times and places they've only studied. How fun to watch Lily learn about how to grow hydrangeas, for Sofie to hear about a fantastic ballet, for Matt to make a distant connection, for Nora to chatter about her cousins, for me to hear about how other mama's made it through tough times, to watch Ben share his cookie with a new friend...sometimes.

9) Make the relationship be the goal.  Hospitality is not a service...it's an intentional relational lifestyle.  If building relationships is your goal--whether dinner was delicious or not so much, whether your children were angels or in great need of grace or discipline...whether your house was spotless or your guest tripped on a toy and found the bathroom with an empty roll--you have succeeded.  There are sweet, transformational connections built every time our disastrous garage is passed through, simply because those connections were our only goal.  When these new friends need help, need prayer, need a friend, or most, need Christ in you, the hope of glory, you are now accessible. And when you need it...they are, too.

When Jesus sat with people, things changed.

Everywhere we looked in Haiti, we saw heavy things that needed His touch. Everywhere we look in America, we are just as overwhelmed with all that should be different.

If our homes are filled with the same Spirit that filled our Savior, perhaps the change that is needed most begins right here.

They broke bread in their homes

and ate together

with glad and sincere hearts.

Acts 2:46

Most important of all,

continue to show deep love for one another,

for love covers a multitude of sin.

Cheerfully share your home with those 

who need a meal or a place to stay.

1 Peter 4:8-9

summer

I'm still acting like it's the first day of summer break and suddenly it's JUNE.  Matt's been in Memphis all week for Global Methodist Church conference, and we spent most of the days trying to find Lily a good summer job, catching up with friends and staying up too late watching movies we've been waiting to watch with Lily and Sofie like Rule Breakers about Afghanistan's first all-girl robotics team and The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society about the German occupation of the island of Guernsey in WWII.  

The teens stay up late and sleep in. The little get up with the rising sun and play and crash hard, and mama-in-the-middle gets to stay up late AND get up early:)  I would not necessarily recommend teen-ing and toddler-ing at the same time, but I sure am NOT gonna miss out on these sweet seasons. 

This week kicks off birthday season with four summer birthdays...Sofie turns 14 Wednesday and 7 additional teenage girls are joing us for 24 hours of fun! We're also getting ready for Revival next week, VBS in two weeks, art camp, church camp, all the good things. Emma is Incredibly excited about turning 3 in a few weeks with Minnie Mouse, and has told everyone she's willing to talk to about it. I'm glad Matt is back home :)

If you're looking for a SOLID devotional, I'm reading through Upon Waking with Jackie Hill Perry Again, and I'm back to my 30 Days to Resilient by John Eldridge "Pause" App...SO good and resetting every morning and evening. 

The more I fill up, the more He pours out when I'm shaken. It makes sense, that what we put in is what is coming out...but it's sometimes not apparent until we are shaking thin all over everyone that the solution isn't trying harder, but filling more often and deeper!  Summer and extra kids all the time is always a great practice in sanctification!  What we need is coming freely from His throne...head there and drink, ten times a day! 

Meanwhile, I am thankful for:  

two evenings that friends brought dinner when Matt was gone...and stayed to eat it with us! 

kids who love to play together (and on the flip, love to argue). We're focusing on love to play.

a neighborhood of like-minded families for the kids to play whiffle ball and ride bikes with

good worship music that help make monotonous chores times of work and worship

our faithful little small group that keeps us grounded and growing and prayed for

faithful Sunday night family dinner, and the GOOD family that fills our table

blueberry bushes that need quietly picked in the cool sunrise every morning for blueberry muffins

a pool to go to this summer

Haitian friends and family that daily point to Jesus

American friends and family who daily do the same

the Lord, near and good and trustworthy

sweeter, better, nobler

O Chambers was sharing one of my favorite annual devotional thoughts this morning and it hits me every time.  

the things we are going through either make us sweeter, better, and nobler

or they are making us more critical, fault-finding and more insistent on our own way.

The things that happen either make us evil, or they make us more saintly,

depending entirely upon our relationship with God and its level of intimacy. 

God's purpose, every time, is absolutely oneness with Himself. 

We have all finished school, Lily is done with her final exams, and this morning was the first morning in a very long time of hot coffee on the porch swing in the sunshine with Matt, slowing it down a bit. I LOVE summer vacation and I love these crazy, popscicle-obsessed messy kids, and I love having my crew all home. We are looking for very few additional things to do this summer, and hopefully I'll hear "I'm bored!" a few hundred times :)

Matt preached a weekend revival with his good friend Ron Smith, and is planning to be back in time to preach Sunday morning here and then head to annual conference in Memphis. Our friend Hannah moved in a few weeks ago now, so having Dad gone is a bit easier with two adults, and a driving teen! 

I've gotta get to bed, but intentional and bold prayer thought keeps striking me this week:

What is God showed up tonight and said, "Everything you've prayed for for the last week, YES, done."

Would your world be any different? Would the world be any different?

Or would we just be thankful for this day? Would food just have nourished our bodies? You got a parking spot, hit a couple green lights, favorite team won?

Think about it.

Would there still be unreached people groups? Would all of your relationships be reconciled? Would there still be injustice in the world? What are you praying for? Would your lost friends still be lost?

If our prayers are not intimidating to us, they very well could be insulting to the Almighty God.

11 random richnesses of the week:

every time He is trusted.

There's a lot going on in life right now.

It exposes tender places I was unaware.

Lily drives my van to and from school every day, and on the rare day I now get to drive my car, I have to move the seat up to reach the pedals. I know what 18 means. And I know 16 is close. 

Sofie went out for cheer, worked her booty off, made the team, and then handled some complications in a way that made me proud to be her mama. On her own. Couldn't have made her or stopped her, and she just did. Now I am a cheer mom, and I'll do it...as long as it's Sofie's. 

Nora is turning double digits. My little Nora. The one we almost lost. The one everyone thinks doesn't like them. The one you have to earn.

Ben is so tall and so dirty and so tan and so intense and so obsessed with all things sports and friends and I wonder if I'll even SEE him this summer. But he hugs me fifty times a day and tells me every. single. thought.

And Memmie is turning 3 and will never remember Grandpa...or Haiti...and is the quietest, sweetest, most hilarious, busiest, opinionated thing, and I remind the Lord every day that I am so sorry I cried and cried for 9 months and thought His good gift was too much...instead of just trusting Him.

Matt pours it all out, and preaches good and heavy and loving and clear and painful truth. He teaches deep, meat not milk, and when he's not preaching, he's pastoring, listening and loving and pointing towards Jesus...much with the church and also much with the lost. It's a 24/7, 110% sport, shepherding. And he never does it sloppy or half-way. Even when no one sees. Even when no one comes. Even when no one notices. 

I do.

A few friends are facing very scary and suffering things, and it's sacred and fragile to breath out prayers for them, continually. Wishing I could DO. And doing the most important work I could. In the middle of dishes and Algebra and carpool...I'm praying, and it cannot be taken away from me, the honor.

We have extra kids and extra people all the time and I realize it's finally a season when I'm ok with that.

Jesus always said to let them come. Jesus always said to make room, hearts and homes. Jesus always said He would be enough. And while some seasons past I have questioned that, daily...I am trusting Him with that better now. He will always provide for the making room and making bandwidth for another body, a soul, a conversation, a plate, a dollar.

I miss Haiti every day, Haiti and her people. And I miss my little sister and her people.  I miss them all being a part of daily life and vice-versa.  And when it comes to Haiti and to Lisa, I wish things were different. I guess you can wish things were different while also being so thankful for the richness of His calling and His mission and His provision and His people in our lives.

I worry that I am too much. That we are too much. That people grow weary of us, always talking about Jesus, always food on Benny's face, always looking a little homeless, always feeling things way too big, always a little too loud, never dressed quite right, always taking way too long to get over our losses.  I worry that we burden more than bless, or that we'd be easier for people if we could tone it all down. Or burn it all dimmer. 

My kids are coming up too passionate and too heart, and sometimes it gets them in trouble. already. And as I'm reading them missionary martyr biographies at bedtime and memoizing passages about turning the other cheek and tearing up at every family prayer over the heavy burdens of others...as Matt's choking up in the middle of preaching his guts out and teaching the uncomfortable truths of a man who was tortured and nailed to a cross...I KNOW it's my doing, our doing, His doing, and I know it's gonna make life harder for them instead of easier. 

If I'm writing honest...and that's what writing makes me do...I worry no one actually wants us, or what we have to offer. 

And even as I say it...

Even as I say it, I know that if that is my deepest fear...then I can freely face that it is true.

I don't have anything to offer. 

In myself I've got nothing worth wanting. 

I came here with nothing. I'll peace out with nothing. And nothing I have or am is mine or eternal or worth someone wanting.

Every single beautiful or desirable thing in me and around me and through me isn't me.

I might be too much. I might not be enough. I might be both.

But the One Who Decides loves me perfectly and completely and fully and unwavering.

Do you hear me friend?

My children will always be fully known and fully loved and fully seen by Him. 

If all I can do is look to Jesus...

and if all I can give is to point to Jesus...

and if all I have of value is found in Jesus...

then me being too much or not enough or wanted or not wanted...well...

it's of no real consequence, is it. 

There is such freedom in it all boiling down just to Him. 

And HE is on the throne. Mighty and powerful and just and GOOD, salvation in His wings and redemption dripping from His fingertips and glory shone round about Him and making all things new.

King Jesus. 

My aim is to please the One who enlisted me. I will say it again. And I will say it again when I forget. And I will tell you, even when it's humbling.

King Jesus, swallowing up fear every time He is trusted. 

kindled

 Oh my lands it was a busy weekend! 

Our house was busting at the seams with people that we love and haven't seen in a very long time!

Matt grew up with the Buckners, he and Patrick born the same month of the same year to best friends. Any time we went to New Jersey from Haiti, we always stay with Aunt Lori and Uncle Terry, and a few years ago Matt spoke to Pat about getting his seminary degree so that he could do whatever ministry he felt the Lord was calling him to!  He's been a worship pastor, and now a senior pastor at a church near Pittsburg, and he and his wife and his parents all made the LONG drive to attend graduation, and to meet the professors and classmates he's studied with online but never met. 

Pat and Leanne's little only son passed into Jesus' arms while Patrick was working on this degree, and celebrating with them this outward sign that God did not leave them...not for a minute, and continues to have good plans for their lives was so sweet. We shed a lotta tears and shared a lotta laughs and spent many hours catching up and I'm just THANKFUL.

Then, the Heckmans, who we lived with for years in Haiti, also made the long drive down for Ethan, who Matt also convinced to come do his degree years ago, and who was also graduating!  Ethan's grandparents, parents, sister and new baby all came, and it was SO good to catch up with all of them, and again, to celebrate all that God has done and IS doing was precious. 

On top of all that good New Jersey family, we got to celebrate Gaga's son graduating, the youngest Friedeman graduating, several other students Matt started out at WBS graduating....and in general got to see the Lord at WORK!  We also made several new friendships, and I'm just thankful for such a rich rich weekend!

The Buckner's were not gonna leave without worshipping with us Sunday morning, and at the last minute Matt asked him if there was a song he wanted to lead us in worship in before heading back to PA.

If you want to ugly cry, listen to your husband preach Do you love Me? Feed my sheep, and then watch a man who lost his child humbly and and transparently and boldly lead a group of strangers to the throne in Gratitude, eyes.on.Jesus. 

All my words fall short
I got nothing new
How could I express
All my gratitude?

I could sing these songs
As I often do
But every song must end
And You never do

So I throw up my hands
And praise You again and again
'Cause all that I have is a hallelujah
Hallelujah
And I know it's not much
But I've nothing else fit for a King
Except for a heart singing hallelujah
Hallelujah

He stretches me, more and big and beautifully...I love seeing the Lord at work in peoples lives, and I cherish and am kindled by watching people trust Him. 

the place of prayer

A few crazy weeks have led to the finale...graduation at WBS is this Saturday and we have all kinds of loved ones graduating...from Ethan and all our Haiti Heckmans coming, to Patrick and all our family Buckners, to Gaga Beth's son and his family to the final Friedeman graduating. We're about to have a FULL house and FULL table and a FULL four days, complete with a track meet for Lily, cheer tryouts for Sofie, a baseball tournament for Coach Matt and Ben and all the normal church things. 

You can be praying for us while we celebrate and seek to love people well!

I read a powerful little line today on prayer, and it keeps coming back to me. Several prayer initiatives for the church have come to me again and again the last months, and yet busyness has given me many excuses: Leonard Ravenhill--"Poverty-stricken as the Church is today in many things, she is most stricken here, in the place of prayer.  We have many organizers, but few agonizers; many players and payers, few pray-ers; many singers, few clingers; lots of pastors, few wrestlers; many fears, few tears; much fashion, little passion; many interferers, few intercessors; many writers, but few fighters.  Failing here, we fail everywhere."

I have badly missed writing and am bringing it back...thank you for being my praying people. 

strong and kind

I'm not sure why the school calendar also goes crazy the week of Easter, but it did, and we've all been hanging in there by a thread! National Honor Society induction, Spring prom, two trips to the pediatrician this week, Maundy Thursday services, Good Friday services, and the normal school, Wednesday night Bible study, etc...it's been FULL. 

Far heavier was the shocking news Monday morning that one of our fellow pastor's daughter was killed instantly in a car accident on her way to school in Jackson that morning. Beautiful, blond, 23. How full the week was of tears and prayers for that precious family, how heavy and different the weight and glory of Easter. Add a gut-wrenching, heart-breaking, hope-clinging funeral to the week. 

I was assigned in the middle to share a short devotional at church on one of Jesus' last phrases, "Woman, behold your son...Behold your mother!" and at first glance, I really did not know what else to say about that. 

'Till I took a breath and stopped. Till I took the kiddos all outside with my Bible and notebook and got them playing so I could pray...Lord, show me something.

Instead He brought instantly to my mind a song Ben and Nora sing every year at their Friday homeschool co-op. Jesus, strong and kind.

He here was, suffering greatly, agony, doing what He came to DO. He'd been on divine mission and was at the end, and He was doing it. Gasping. Agonizing. Strong.

And He stepped out of His dying focus for a minute with tender eyes...on human relationships. ALSO a part of His divine mission : community.

And there at the cross, literally at the foot, he took two people who did NOT share blood, and made them family. By HIS blood. There in the middle of His suffering, He anticipated the CHURCH, and made family through HIS blood two people who were not. 

A different family.

A family who shared His blood. A family marked by self-sacrifice. A family marked by mutual responsibility. A family centered on Christ.

This is what He does, strong and kind....takes away the sins of the world AND plants entirely different kinds of community, different kinds of family.

I couldn't help but think of my mom, suffering those last weeks in the hospital, praying endlessly for the future gaps she would be leaving, almost unaware in her suffering that I was in the room listening. I heard her pray for the gaps in my dad's life. I heard her pray for the Lord to send a mother to watch my sister play softball, to sit where she should be sitting. I heard her pray for the Lord to fill the gap she was leaving at my future wedding, at my brother and sister's future weddings. I heard her pray for the Lord to send men and women to fill the gaps she was leaving for future grand-babies. In her suffering, she focused on relationships in a totally self-sacrificing and Christ-centered way.

It's why we can't just be individual Christians who don't go to church. It's why we can't live as monks on poles, worshipping God and focusing on Him but entirely neglecting mutual-care and relationship. It's why it doesn't MATTER how broken the church is! We've gotta be it, in it, a part of it, Woman, behold your son! Friend, behold your mother!

It says at the end of that passage in John that from that moment on, John took her home with him and lived as if she were his mother. From that moment, Jesus said HIS blood made them TRUE family.

What did He NOT do that Good Friday?? What good work did He NOT complete with Easter? Not just saving us from our sins...not just redeeming pain...not just defeating death...not just making heaven possible...not just atoning for us...not just filling all the gaps...not just paying the price...not just laying in the beds that WE'VE made...not just drinking the cups of God's wrath WE've absolutely poured for ourselves...He also showed us what HIS family looks like...and led the way.

man. 

the richness.

Mallory, my sister because of JESUS blood, is whole and with Him and finally complete, no more crying, no more pain. Her parents, my family because of Jesus' tenderness, can be carried again and again to His throne, tears in His eyes with them, by me. My parents, whole and free and His name on their foreheads are not missing out on anything, but the Lord has filled their gaps again and again with Himself....

Again and again the Lord has been on His mighty throne doing important work in my life and in yours, and looks down at us with tenderness and love, and moves His people into place to be JESUS in our lives.

Oh Easter.

I needed you today.  King Jesus, strong and kind.

sunshine

We had a lovely women's conference at our church this morning with a friend of ours doing the Bible teaching. It was on "Choosing Cheer" and there were SO many great takeaways and perspective shifts. But the image she shared that probably blessed me the most was of her pup.

She spoke about how her older dog adores lying in the sunshine. How they know where to find him first thing in the morning, in the sunny square in her office.  By ten, the spot has moved to the stairs, and he lays there in the rectangle. Mid-day, there is no sun coming through the windows, and he restlessly awaits the sun-setting spots at the back of their house, contorting his body into whatever shape the sun patch is in so that he can soak up as much sunshine as possible. 

Nicolet spoke about how we often chase joy like this. We see patches of it in or near our lives and we go after it, only to find it move away a moment later. We go after it again and again, reshaping our lives to enjoy it's warmth, only to have it move away, and often times seem totally unavailable to us. 

I couldn't help but think, let that dog out in the YARD and she beat me to it : "The fullness of joy is found in HIS presence...instead of chasing sunspots, step out into the light and soak in the fullness of joy that cannot be taken away from you, that doesn't shift, that doesn't fade away."

What a GREAT image.  What a great truth. 

It's ridiculous to be chasing sun spots when the back door is wide open and He's asking us to know and experience and live in THAT kind of unwavering joy.  In this world of promised tribulation, we can be of good cheer. 

Sun-spots on the carpet are for the dogs. I don't know why I settle for so little, so often, when all that He offers is so radiant!